One of the opportunities I had this week was to work through a conflict without taking it personally. I won't say it was easy, and I won't say I was 100% successful either. That would be stretching the truth. As I was driving back from work today I remembered one of the Four Agreements is to not take anything personally. That's a significant goal, and one I imagine would lead to a lot more peace of mind when practiced regularly. In fact, each agreement, especially the third agreement, would result in tremendous amounts of peace of mind and decreases in drama or conflicts when practiced regularly.
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
1. Be Impeccable With Your WordMy last week at work in NY before I moved to Las Vegas a very close friend gave me a copy of the Four Agreements in a card. I'll always remember where I first read them. Thank you Betty.
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak
against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don't Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don't Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
Give thanks for what you are now, and keep fighting for what you want to be tomorrow.